Comparison is a natural human characteristic and trait. We constantly seek validation in our efforts because it enables us to see where we are in relation to where we want to end up. It is part of the human experience.
We often allow ourselves to fall into the trap of defining our progress and success based on the highlights and success of our peers while forgetting the struggles that they’ve had to endure. You have to learn to compete with yourself and the quality of your ideas & output and use your peers as motivation to strive for the next benchmark that *You* define.
The reality is all success requires trial and error. We often don’t view the setbacks and disappointments of our peers, nor do we observe the time that it takes to arrive to the success that we are witnessing. Comparing ourselves to that success, is not an accurate representation of the ups and downs that they’ve endured to arrive.
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The Double Wristlock has so much potential for my grappling game overall.
I’m interested in its application as a takedown method and also a method of control.
Submissions are not my primary focus as a grappler. Being able to control opponents has value
in combat disciplines such as Judo and self defense scenarios.
I started paying more attention to the Kimura since I’ve been training with Matheus Gonzaga.
He is an armbar and Kimura machine. In focusing on the defense against these techniques,
I gained a greater appreciation for it.
I will be focused on getting the double wristlock from neutral standup position and
from half guard and full guard.
If the saying, “You are what you think about all day long” is accurate, then the actions you take that reinforce those thoughts work hand-in-hand towards producing the best version of self. Below are 3 aspects that I think you should consider in building the momentum for sustained excellence.
1.) Define Your Flavor of Excellence
Comparison to the unique traits and accomplishments of others can only lead to a negative result. It is necessary to acknowledge the accomplishments of others in our personal and business lives, but only for the purposes of defining
your unique path. You must define your terms and the rules by which you will play the game.
2.) Use Pictures in Strategic Locations
Images serve as reminders of the flavor of excellence that you have committed to. They provide us with an immediate shock and jolt to put us on the right path. Strategic locations indicate those locations that you frequent such as your refrigerator, your bedroom mirror, and other areas.
3.) Make Time for the Excellence
Average people make time for work, their commute, and other tasks that serve as distractions. Those who create great things, projects, and develop great ideas make time
What is your approach for daily mastery? Leave your comments.
If there is one character development vehicle that I can point to that has helped me experience the greatest amount of growth, I would list competition at the top of my list.
I can attribute the way I handle pressure, decision making, and working well with others in team scenarios to years of competition.
Why is Competition Valuable?
In order to reach the highest levels of operation for your business, brand, and lifestyle, you need to consider the value of competition. Being tested under situations that you do not control or create enables you to react with creativity based on the preparation you’ve undergone to reach that point.
Competition provides feedback that is difficult to obtain in other settings.
View my Tweets and a few responses about the Value of Competition below:
It is commonly assumed that self-made, self-driven, and/or self-directed people use internal motivation to rev themselves up. They are often extremely driven by external stimulus and being tested by the unknown in their given fields of choice.
Brandon @SPMan07 offered an excellent point. Fear of failure is a huge reason why direct competition is avoided by many people. I offer that competition should be viewed as a learning tool.
Greg @justcallme98 offered that the challenge isn’t starting on the ideas and projects that would build a lasting legacy, but finding the strength to complete them. I quoted a great mentor of my past who would focus on getting his ideas expressed, instead of spending unnecessary time refining them. This approach was wildly successful for him.
In adulthood, I still actively challenge myself via competition.
What drives you today? What activities do you fear and want to continue to embark upon in order to reach your personal definition of success?
Comment here on my blog or Tweet me your response
What event, “advice”, or circumstance convinced you that you could not achieve your goal?
Failure starts from a seed of adversity that was planted when hard times appeared within your journey.
Negative self-talk and doubt are what helps failure to take root within our minds and sap our energy
The idea that you can’t be, do, and have the outcomes that you expect from life is false, and something that you allowed yourself to believe over time.
Use the image in this post to identify the reasons why you stopped going for what you want, and let’s pledge today to get back on the road to making success happen according to your definition.
1.) Identify the one thing you’ve always aspired to achieve
2.) Identify why exactly you stopped or quit
3.) Write down the outcome that you want to accomplish
4.) Write down one action today that you can use to get start
5.) Commit to one action *today* in order to get started
Your life is a marathon and those who are trained for the long haul will reach the finish line.
As long as you’re alive, you’re always in the game!
I was honored to be a featured speaker for the first SPS Pittsburgh event. It was held at Carlyle University in the downtown area. I delivered 2 sessions: Let’s Build Enterprise Search Step-by-Step and Transitioning into Office 365, Azure, and SharePoint Careers.
Both sessions were well received and provided me with immediate feedback on the next direction of my speaking topics.
Special thanks to the organizations Sandy, Guarav, and Johnathan for putting together a world class event.
In my encounters with champions and wildly successful people, preparation is the common denominator that fuels them all. Everyday is a quest to improve, to understand, to grow. Opportunities don’t come with timelines that agree with our schedule.
Your biggest moments in life will come when you have to rise to the occasion and deliver when you don’t have the right amount of prep time. It is the magic of the deadline.
How you practice is how you perform when it counts. The question is: how efficient are your practice habits?
What are you studying?
Are you staying in tune with the thought leaders of your industry. Are you up-to-date on the changes within your business. What are the latest trends and how do they impact you?
List the top 3 blogs in your industry.
List blogs that you have not read but have wanted to
Who are you sparring with?
Steel sharpens steel. In order to be prepared, you must continuosly match your wits with peers with equal or greater ambition. Being the smartest person in the room, means you need to locate another room with more ambition. You must connect to masterminds, community groups, or local meetup events to stay connected with people and ideas that matter most. Your growth will be accelerated as a result.
List the top 5 community groups in your area
Commit to attending one event during this month
What solo drills are you performing?
Time spent working on your craft outside of the office or workplace is the key factor in excellence vs. average output. It is vital that you ‘take your work home’ in terms of interesting things that you want to learn more about. Greatness sustained over a period of time requires falling in love with practice.
If you don’t have the time, today I want you to make the time. The best version of you requires that you prepare each day for the opportunities that will arise.